Wedding Ceremonies

How does the ceremony work?

There are many different types of wedding ceremonies. Your ceremony is a binding ritual so make it truly personal. Whether you want a traditional, non-religious wedding ceremony or something else, use the basic outline of a traditional wedding as a starting point, and personalize it from there. The basic components can be in any order you chose and include: 

The Greeting/Call to Attention

Your officiant tells guests they’re here to support the commitment and love between the two of you and may say a few words about you and your relationship. 

Declaration of Intent/Vows

Writing your own vows is a great way to celebrate your commitment to each other — and its uniqueness. You can draw what you like from traditional religious or secular vows; adapt wordings from poems, songs, and prose; or start from scratch and express your feelings in your own words. 

Ring Exchange

Perhaps you’ve already given each other rings, and maybe now you’ll add bands to go with them or re-enact the ring exchange with a few special words. 

Readings/Unity Rituals

You could read about love, friendship, companionship, trust, growth, or whatever speaks to your heart. Joining rituals like a Unity candle or Native American sand blending are perfect ways to symbolize your union. 

Pronouncement of Marriage and the Kiss

This part speaks for itself.

Wedding Ceremony

There are many different wedding ceremonies to choose from or you can create your own. After we meet and you have decided that I will be your wedding officiant, I will craft a wedding ceremony that will reflect your values so that you may express your love and commitment to each other in your own special way. Any ceremony can be personalized just for you. Below is a sample of a lovely ceremony where the bride and groom added special elements to truly reflect their lives.



Sample Ceremony

Please be seated.

Who gives this woman to be married to this man? (Parents say “We do.)


We’re all here today to celebrate the relationship of Bride and Groom and to witness their union in holy matrimony. Together we’re a group of the most important people in their lives and they’ve brought us here to publicly recognize that we’ve all played some special part in the love they share today.


Bride and Groom wanted me to thank you all for being here and to recognize how important each and every one of you is to their relationship. We would also like to take a moment to recognize those that could not be here today.


Marriage is a sacred ceremony. Today we observe the union of these two people with the respect the occasion warrants. What we honor with reverence, however, we also celebrate with great joy! For married life – a shared life – is a tremendous blessing. Now, as Bride and Groom embark on this journey together, they will be able to nurture a love that makes each of them better versions of themselves.


Marriage gives permanence and structure to a couple’s love. It is telling the person you love that you’re not going anywhere and that’s a powerful commitment for two people to make to one another.


A good marriage must be built on the foundation of this commitment.

In marriage the “little” things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say, “I love you” at least once a day.
It is standing together and facing the world.
It is speaking words of appreciation, and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.
It is not only marrying the right partner — it is being the right partner.


Bride and Groom I would ask that you always treat yourself and each other with respect, and remind yourselves often of what brought you together today.
Give the highest priority to the tenderness, gentleness and kindness that your marriage deserves. When frustration and difficulty assail your marriage – as they do to every relationship at one time or another – focus on what still seems right between you, not only the part that seems wrong.
This way, when clouds of trouble hide the sun in your lives and you lose sight of it for a moment, you can remember that the sun is still there. And if each of you will take responsibility for the quality of your life together, it will be marked by abundance and happiness.


IRISH HAND-FASTING UNITY CEREMONY:


VOWS (during the hand-fasting ceremony)(repeat after me)


I, Bride, take you, Groom, to be my husband, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
Whatever may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold
So I give you my life to keep.


I, Groom, take you, Bride, to be my wife, my partner in life and my one true love.
I will cherish our friendship and love you today, tomorrow, and forever.
I will trust you and honor you
I will laugh with you and cry with you.
I will love you faithfully
Through the best and the worst,
Through the difficult and the easy.
Whatever may come I will always be there.
As I have given you my hand to hold
So I give you my life to keep.


LOVE LETTER AND WINE BOX TIME CAPSULE


Exchanging of Rings
*Get rings from Maid of Honor and Best Man.

Minister: Bride and Groom will now exchange rings to symbolize their commitment.
The ring is an endless circle, the symbol of the Universe, of Infinity. It is complete in itself, always in peace and harmony. These wedding rings are the symbols of the unending love and friendship that you, Bride and Groom, share. Let your lives come together today and forever, like the unbroken circles of these rings. Lord, bless these rings that Bride and Groom give to each other as a sign of their love and friendship.


Do you, Groom, take this woman to be your lawfully wedded wife? To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, forsaking all others, for as long as you both shall live? “I do.”

I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and commitment. With this ring, I thee wed.


Do you, Bride, take this man to be your lawfully wedded husband?- To have and to hold from this day forward, for better or for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, forsaking all others, for as long as you both shall live? “I do.”

I give you this ring as a symbol of my love and commitment. With this ring, I thee wed.


To make your relationship work will take love. This is the core of your marriage and why you are here today.
It will take trust, to know, that in your hearts, you truly want what is best for each other. It will take dedication, to stay open to one another – and to learn and grow together.
It will take faith, to go forward together, without knowing exactly what the future brings. And it will take commitment, to hold true to the journey you both have pledged to today.


Bride and Groom, we have heard your promise to share your lives in marriage. We recognize and respect the covenant you have made here this day before each one of us as witnesses. Therefore in the honesty and sincerity of what you have said and done here today and by the power vested in me, it is my honor to declare you Husband and Wife…partners in life….for life

You may now kiss the bride.


Ladies and gentlemen, it is my pleasure to present to you …………….


Dear Guests,
Please spread your fir boughs along the aisle as Bride and Groom take their first steps as newlyweds. It is a German tradition to lay the fir boughs along the path to pave their way into their new lives with fresh greenery to symbolize hope, luck and fertility.